I spent from January 2nd through July 19th, 2022, in the Hillsborough County Jail accused of Aggravated Assault with a Deadly weapon, accused of stabbing my daughter’s boyfriend. He promised me on December 30th 2021, that I had made him my worst enemy.
I asked him for rent money which for the last two months he promised to pay but never did. I had two rotator cuff surgeries six months apart and had run through my savings trying to pay all the bills. I took a loan from my 401K of just under $15,000.00.
The three checks were to be delivered on January 2nd but there was no apartment # on the address so they were delivered on the 3rd of January. While I was incarcerated these checks were deposited by my stolen debit card (I’ll give you three guesses who stole my debit card, my driver’s license, all my credit cards. One guess will do.)
Did I forget to mention my daughter and her boyfriend were both drug addicts?
Did I forget to mention that I was a clean and sober addict since 2018? NA gave me the strength to save myself, gave me back my self-worth and an incredible will to live a full and productive life. Be the best person I could be, but my people pleasing traits still raise its ugly head occasionally LOL.
That’s where the enabling came in. I allowed my daughter to move in, cosigned for a car loan, all with promises that she would take over half the car payments once she got a job…something she has never done for longer than 6 months.
My biggest fear was that she would die and somehow, I was the only person capable of saving her if I continued to help her. Something I know was the worst move, but I continued to enable her in the absolute belief that I could prevent her death. My God Complex was unparalleled when it came to my daughter. I loved her with all my heart, but these events finally gave me the courage and strength to finally put her at the distance I should have given her years before, again my God complex may have prevented her from growing up…but hindsight is 20/20 and I FINALLY removed my rose colored glasses.
My story began many years ago and I will try to share as honestly as I can and maybe help someone to save their child.
How Enabling Almost Ruined My Life 
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